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From Lost Earrings to ‘Scary Island,’ Reality TV Vacation Episodes Reign Supreme

When the stars whip out their passports, you know you're in for a treat (and some quality travel inspo).

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Photo courtesy of NBC Universal
Photo courtesy of NBC Universal

Although last Sunday’s episode of The Real Housewives of New York City (season 14, episode 10) took place amid the tranquil waters of Anguilla, the atmosphere was anything but chill. That is to say, it contained all the makings of a classic reality TV vacation episode: Jessel and Sai had a tense conversation on the deck of a yacht; at dinner, the sun-kissed girls bonded over embarrassing stories; and, just as the episode was about to end, Ubah and Erin engaged in a full-on screaming match.

The Anguilla episodes, currently airing on Bravo, are functioning exactly as they should be, successfully tethering viewers to a cast that they were, up until this point, only just getting to know. Because in the reality TV universe, when the stars go on vacation, you inevitably see sides of them you never saw before (take Jenna Lyons refusing to fly coach, for instance). Not to be confused with competition or dating shows set entirely in elaborate rental villas on idyllic islands, the vacation episodes we’re talking about are a stark break from the format’s everyday routine. The cast, riddled with budding conflicts seeded in previous episodes, are shipped off to a remote location while those of us at home lounge on the couch, just waiting for the powder keg to explode.

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Courtesy of Tahiti Tourisme North America
Courtesy of Tahiti Tourisme North America

Of course, vacation episodes aren’t exclusive to Bravo’s glitzy homemakers. The onscreen trope is so effective precisely because it’s so ubiquitous, showing up time and time again throughout the genre’s history. On MTV’s Laguna Beach, what happened in Cabo back in 2004 definitely never stayed in Cabo. The 2011 Bora Bora episodes featured in season six of Keeping Up With the Kardashians gave birth to one of the internet’s greatest memes thanks to Kourtney’s off-handed remark, “Kim, there’s people that are dying.” And the muggy summer air was thick with excitement when the cast of MTV’s Jersey Shore landed in Florence to film their fourth season-though things quickly went awry after Snooki rear-ended a police car and Mike “The Situation” slammed his head into a concrete wall.

“However the cast is going into the trip, they are going to come out of it differently-their alliances will change, people who were feuding will have made up, people who were good going in will now be frenemies” says Kacey Calahane, an associate professor of history at Chaffey College and one of the brains behind Historians on Housewives, a multimedia project that turns critical conversations about The Housewives franchise into podcasts, academic symposia, and, soon, a written anthology. “There’s so much that happens in the arc of these trips-fueled by alcohol, not enough sleep, and a lot of time together, it’s a fast-changing landscape.”

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Peacock/Contributor/NBCUniversal/Getty Images

In RHONY lore, season three’s “Sun, Sand, and Psychosis”-aptly nicknamed “Scary Island” by fans-cemented the vacation episode’s undisputed iconicity. Devoted viewers will never forget when, on a 2010 girls’ trip to St. John, a very pregnant Bethenny Frankel yelled “GO TO SLEEP” at an emotionally distressed Kelly Killoren Bensimon (Bensimon later revealed she was upset after finding out one of the castmates had a traumatic health issue). As proven by its off-the-chart ratings, the episode was so compelling that the franchise not only began incorporating a vacation into each subsequent season, but also went on to create entire travel-oriented spin-offs, like The Real Housewives Ultimate Girls Trip (2021) and Luann and Sonja: Welcome to Crappie Lake (2023).

These moments can also produce some of the most memorable one-liners-like when RHONY season seven star Luanne de Lesseps uttered, “Don’t be all, like, uncool,” after getting caught up to some late-night antics. Sometimes vacation episodes offer us some comic relief, a silly glimpse into the classic fish-out-of-water experience. That was the case for RHONY’s very urbane, season six cast, tasked to spend some quality time in the wilds of Montana. The rural backdrop might have provided a tamer setting than Ramona Singer’s island getaway, yet it still gave way to plenty of hijinks as the girls tried their hands at fly-fishing, skeet shooting, and repelling down a mountain.

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Photo courtesy of NBC Universal
Photo courtesy of NBC Universal

Location, location, location

“[Vacation destinations] take them out of their comfort zone,” says Lisa Shannon, RHONY season 14 executive producer. “They’re telling stories that they might not have otherwise told. They’re able to break off into different groups and form connections, which was important to us.”

To determine a trip setting, producers work with the cast members to find places they might like to visit, whether it’s a bucket list spot, a chance to try something new, or a place they’re already linked to. They sometimes share the responsibility of shoring up the details with the cast, injecting the upcoming vacation with additional drama by making the planning a part of the storyline. This year’s RHONY sojourn to Anguilla, organized by star Sai De Silva, is a prime example. “In this case, with Sai, she was so on Erin about her hosting skills,” explains Shannon. “[Sai] really wanted to host something to show how she could do it, and then we helped with the cost of the trip.”

Other factors come down to sheer logistics. This year, the crew happened to be shooting in January, so with its temperate climate and turquoise waters, the dreamy British Overseas Territory appeared to be a no-brainer. “I think with New York in particular, we tend to go to the Caribbean, Miami, or Mexico,” Shannon says. “It’s a really nice juxtaposition to jump from the cold to this very beautiful, lush escape.”

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When it comes to showcasing the essence of a vacation location, producers stress the importance of getting locals involved. In Anguilla, it’s all about rum-a fact that’s solidified when the women visit Elvis Beach Bar in next week’s episode and sample the eponymous owner’s famous rum punch recipe. “We try to vary the activities so they’re not just going from meal to meal, but having them do things that are really fun and indicative of wherever location we may be,” Shannon adds. Real Housewives vacation episodes have even memorialized certain onscreen haunts, lest we forget the now-shuttered Fat Turtle, the bar in St. John that sparked Ramona Singer’s trademark catchphrase, “Tuuuurtle time.”

Location is equally important during the staycation-a field in which RHONY particularly excels. Depending on where the cast retreats, whether it’s the Hamptons, Massachusetts, or even just the next neighborhood over, the chosen environment immediately indicates to viewers exactly what they should expect. “Dorinda’s Berkshires home, Blue Stone Manor, essentially functions as its own character on the show, much like the SUR alley in Vanderpump Rules,” Calahane says, referencing another Bravo reality hit. These shoots also work to shift the power dynamic, bringing into play obstacles the cast wouldn’t normally encounter otherwise. “The hostess always has a lot to manage, with all the different personalities staying in the home,” Shannon adds.

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Distancing themselves from the drama

It would be unfair to characterize all vacation episodes as mere montages of messy drunken blowouts. “There are also a lot of internal challenges within these trips that get caught on camera, tensions that aren’t necessarily about the trip itself, but what they’re leaving behind,” Calahane continues, pointing to revealing footage showing the introverted Jenna Lyons navigating big sleepovers, Bethenny Frankel letting go of her mommy guilt, and Aviva Drescher facing her travel anxiety.

Reality TV vacations can be used to pull on the heartstrings, often diving into genealogy to enrich the characters’ backstories and strengthen their relationships with one another. In 2010, The Real Housewives of New Jersey’s season two players traveled to Italy to visit relatives and track down family connections. Season 11’s Meghan King brought her fellow Orange County wives to Ireland in a quest to trace her own lineage. And perhaps one of RHONY’s most poignant moments unfurled onscreen when Dorinda accompanied Carole on a season seven journey to London to retrieve her late husband’s ashes.

“As a historian, I think about how much those women were sharing, and how this was such a healing experience for them,” says Calahane. “Dorinda and Carole were talking about these life experiences that they couldn’t share with the other women in the group because they’re not widows. They aren’t necessarily very close before this trip, but they come back with a very deep connection.”

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KAREN MINASYAN/Contributor/AFP/Getty Images
KAREN MINASYAN/Contributor/AFP/Getty Images

Calahane notes that sometimes vacations can open the door to meaningful, historical conversations, both onscreen and off. Season 10 of Keeping Up With the Kardashians, for instance, follows the family on a trip to Armenia. And in sharp contrast to the standard frivolous banter, the camera touchingly captures Kim and Khloe at the Armenian Genocide Memorial in Yerevan to honor the 100-year anniversary of the political tragedy.

The Real Housewives of Potomac’s season four followed a similar script when the women visited the plantation where cast member Gizelle Bryant’s ancestors were once enslaved. “It was kind of a mind-blowing TV moment, especially when you think about how this aired in 2019, when Southern Charm was big,” Calahane says, referring to the popular Bravo reality series that featured its cast engaging in commercial plantation tourism in several now-deleted scenes. “And so what happens, then, when this becomes a foil to other presentations of the South that we see?”

Whether they’re creating pop culture landmarks or commenting on heavy social issues, reality TV vacations are without a doubt spreading travel inspiration among viewers. “The Amsterdam trip from [Real Housewives of] Beverly Hills comes to mind as a place where the women do so much-they’re bike riding, they’re on boats, they’re going to the cafes to have edibles and smoke weed,” Calahane says. “I know I’ve planned full vacations around where reality TV people have vacationed.”

So go ahead and make some memories out there-just try not to throw your wine glass at anyone.Want more Thrillist? Follow us on InstagramTikTokTwitterFacebookPinterest, and YouTube.

Jessica Sulima is a staff writer on the Travel team at Thrillist. Follow her on Twitter and Instagram

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Ditch your Phone for ‘Dome Life’ in this Pastoral Paradise Outside Port Macquarie 

A responsible, sustainable travel choice for escaping big city life for a few days.

nature domes port macquarie
Photo: Nature Domes

The urge to get as far away as possible from the incessant noise and pressures of ‘big city life’ has witnessed increasingly more of us turn to off-grid adventures for our holidays: Booking.com polled travellers at the start of 2023 and 55% of us wanted to spend our holidays ‘off-grid’.  Achieving total disconnection from the unyielding demands of our digitised lives via some kind of off-grid nature time—soft or adventurous—is positioned not only as a holiday but, indeed, a necessity for our mental health. 

Tom’s Creek Nature Domes, an accommodation collection of geodesic domes dotted across a lush rural property in Greater Port Macquarie (a few hours’ drive from Sydney, NSW), offers a travel experience that is truly ‘off-grid’. In the figurative ‘wellness travel’ sense of the word, and literally, they run on their own independent power supply—bolstered by solar—and rely not on the town grid. 

Ten minutes before you arrive at the gates for a stay at Tom’s Creek Nature Domes, your phone goes into ‘SOS ONLY’. Apple Maps gives up, and you’re pushed out of your comfort zone, driving down unsealed roads in the dark, dodging dozens of dozing cows. Then, you must ditch your car altogether and hoist yourself into an open-air, all-terrain 4WD with gargantuan wheels. It’s great fun being driven through muddy gullies in this buggy; you feel like Laura Dern and Jeff Goldblum in Jurassic Park.  As your buggy pulls in front of your personal Nature Dome, it’s not far off that “Welcome…to Jurassic Park” jaw-dropping moment—your futuristic-looking home is completely engulfed by thriving native bushland; beyond the outdoor campfire lie expansive hills and valleys of green farmland, dotted with sheep and trees. You’re almost waiting to see a roaming brachiosaurus glide past, munching on a towering gum tree…instead, a few inquisitive llamas trot past your Dome to check out their new visitor. 

To fully capture the awe of inhabiting a geodesic dome for a few days, a little history of these futuristic-looking spherical structures helps. Consisting of interlocking triangular skeletal struts supported by (often transparent) light walls, geodesic domes were developed in the 20th century by American engineer and architect R. Buckminster Fuller, and were used for arenas. Smaller incarnations have evolved into a ‘future-proof’ form of modern housing: domes are able to withstand harsh elements due to the stability provided by the durable materials of their construction and their large surface area to volume ratio (which helps minimize wind impact and prevents the structure from collapsing). As housing, they’re also hugely energy efficient – their curved shape helps to conserve heat and reduce energy costs, making them less susceptible to temperature changes outside. The ample light let in by their panels further reduces the need for artificial power. 

Due to their low environmental impact, they’re an ideal sustainable travel choice. Of course, Tom’s Creek Nature Domes’ owner-operators, Cardia and Lee Forsyth, know all this, which is why they have set up their one-of-a-kind Nature Domes experience for the modern traveller. It’s also no surprise to learn that owner Lee is an electrical engineer—experienced in renewable energy—and that he designed the whole set-up. As well as the off-grid power supply, rainwater tanks are used, and the outdoor hot tub is heated by a wood fire—your campfire heats up your tub water via a large metal coil. Like most places in regional Australia, the nights get cold – but rather than blast a heater, the Domes provide you with hot water bottles, warm blankets, lush robes and heavy curtains to ward off the chill.

nature domes port macquarie
Photo: Nature Domes

You’ll need to be self-sufficient during your stay at the Domes, bringing your own food. Support local businesses and stock up in the town of Wauchope on your drive-in (and grab some pastries and coffee at Baked Culture while you’re at it). There’s a stovetop, fridge (stocked as per a mini bar), BBQs, lanterns and mozzie coils, and you can even order DIY S’More packs for fireside fun. The interiors of the Domes have a cosy, stylish fit-out, with a modern bathroom (and a proper flushing toilet—none of that drop bush toilet stuff). As there’s no mobile reception, pack a good book or make the most of treasures that lie waiting to be discovered at every turn: a bed chest full of board games, a cupboard crammed with retro DVDs, a stargazing telescope (the skies are ablaze come night time). Many of these activities are ideal for couples, but there’s plenty on offer for solo travellers, such as yoga mats, locally-made face masks and bath bombs for hot tub soaks. 

It’s these thoughtful human touches that reinforce the benefit of making a responsible travel choice by booking local and giving your money to a tourism operator in the Greater Port Macquarie Region, such as Tom’s Creek Nature Domes. The owners are still working on the property following the setbacks of COVID-19, and flooding in the region —a new series of Domes designed with families and groups in mind is under construction, along with an open-air, barn-style dining hall and garden stage. Once ready, the venue will be ideal for wedding celebrations, with wedding parties able to book out the property. They’ve already got one couple—who honeymooned at the Domes—ready and waiting. Just need to train up the llamas for ring-bearer duties! 

An abundance of favourite moments come to mind from my two-night stay at Tom’s Creek: sipping champagne and gourmet picnicking at the top of a hill on a giant swing under a tree, with a bird’s eye view of the entire property (the ‘Mountain Top picnic’ is a must-do activity add on during your stay), lying on a deckchair at night wrapped in a blanket gazing up at starry constellations and eating hot melted marshmallows, to revelling in the joys of travellers before me, scrawled on notes in a jar of wishes left by the telescope (you’re encouraged to write your own to add to the jar). But I’ll leave you with a gratitude journal entry I made while staying there. I will preface this by saying that I don’t actually keep a gratitude journal, but Tom’s Creek Nature Domes is just the kind of place that makes you want to start one. And so, waking up on my second morning at Tom’s —lacking any 4G bars to facilitate my bad habit of a morning Instagram scroll—I finally opened up a notebook and made my first journal entry:

‘I am grateful to wake up after a deep sleep and breathe in the biggest breaths of this clean air, purified by nature and scented with eucalyptus and rain. I am grateful for this steaming hot coffee brewed on a fire. I feel accomplished at having made myself. I am grateful for the skittish sheep that made me laugh as I enjoyed a long nature walk at dawn and the animated billy goats and friendly llamas overlooking my shoulder as I write this: agreeable company for any solo traveller. I’m grateful for total peace, absolute stillness.” 

Off-grid holiday status: unlocked.

Where: Tom’s Creek Nature Domes, Port Macquarie, 2001 Toms Creek Rd
Price: $450 per night, book at the Natura Domes website.

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